My quest to find the perfect diamond engagement ring is endless because I search daily on behalf of other men who have grown weary of the journey.
Under those circumstances, I can lend them the knowledge gleaned from 35+ years of experience searching for the perfect diamond. Most guys neglect to realize that perfection is a fleeting concept that is capable of driving you mad.
A recent study not conducted by any university or well-known authority has concluded that most online diamond buyers have cognitive paralysis brought on by diamond information overload.
Unfortunately, the effects of cognitive paralysis when buying an engagement ring can have lasting effects on the ones you love.
Fiance Alienation Syndrome:
Many soon-to-be hopeful brides exhibit symptoms of depression, including the lack of ability to focus on things like work, sex, problem-solving, and decision-making.
Did I mention that they have trouble focusing on sex? Oh, right, I know that it's not proper to talk about that sort of thing on a public forum. But, what gave you the impression that anything about my demeanor is proper?
According to some of my best friends, I sell men into slavery, for God's Sake! But enough about that, we're here to solve your sexual problems. In that case, you need to buy the perfect diamond engagement ring as quickly as possible.
It's Imperative You Find the Perfect Diamond Ring:
Let's face facts. You've waited your whole life to find the perfect woman, and once she found you, she made you fall madly in love with her. Suffice to say, that was the easy part.
Now you find yourself in the midst of some endless quest to find her the perfect diamond engagement ring. In the process of conducting your due diligence, you've turned the magical, mythical concept of her engagement ring into a quest for the Holy Grail.
Although you might not be fully aware of the consequence of your actions, she's about over the whole thing. Trust me. I'm a Certified Hypnotherapist and am also trained in the Tony Robbins' Strategic Intervention method.
Brilliant Insight Into Your Relationship:
I have had the immense privilege of discussing the "whole process of getting engaged" with quite a few women. Under those circumstances, they pay me to help them understand the shortcomings of your relationship.
Consequently, those issues are often in direct correlation to the size of your rocks, and these self-help articles might correct the problem:
Not surprisingly, most men and women differ in their idea of the perfect diamond engagement ring. You can blame it all on that whole Mars vs. Venus thing, but it's actually more complicated than that.
In the first place, there are vast differences between what a man and a woman think defines the perfect diamond. Secondly, her idea of the perfect engagement ring is subject to change with her hair color, nail polish, attire, and Cosmo's latest issue.
However, the true meaning of an engagement ring remains pretty constant, so let's focus on that until it's time to upgrade. What? Is it too soon to begin talking about diamond shrinkage syndrome?
Characteristics of the Perfect Diamond:
On the off chance that you happen to have a zillion million dollars at your disposal to buy the perfect diamond, let's be clear about the characteristics:
Of course, that diamond will have an overall cut grade of AGS Ideal and GIA Excellent cut. It's also going to be cut-to-order and set in a bespoke ring custom made to order and named after your beloved.
The perfect diamond also weighs whatever she desires regardless of cost. Plus, the diamond will set low on her finger regardless of the carat weight and relative depth that size commands.
In short, the perfect engagement ring described above doesn't exist, either from the perspective of cost or geometry. Under those circumstances, we need to set reasonable expectations and simultaneously maximize the wow factor.
Get Practical About Finding the Perfect Diamond:
One of the great mysteries in life (which is key to your success) is understanding that everything becomes easier the more you do it. Think about it. The more you do something, the easier it becomes, and the easier it becomes, the more you are likely to do it.
I'm sure that this is a concept that is quite easy for you to grasp because the more you think about it, the more you will begin to agree that this is true.
In that case, the more you read about diamonds, the easier it will become for you to understand all of the subtle nuances of diamond clarity and the perception of diamond color.
The Perfection of Hearts and Arrows:
The more you look at diamonds, the easier it will be to see that super ideal hearts and arrows diamonds exhibit the highest volume of light return and broad-spectrum sparkle.
Although that may be true, you might not want to invest a lot of time reading about diamonds unless your life's ambition is diamond grading. After all, how many diamonds do you really intend to buy in your lifetime?
Consequently, the answer about how many diamonds you're going to buy in your lifetime differs greatly between the sexes because of that Mars vs. Venus thing. That argument is right up there with when to upgrade and diamond shrinkage syndrome.
KISS the Ring (Keep It Simple Stupid):
For the moment, let's focus on finding that one perfect diamond so that you can drop down on one knee and present it perfectly before she lops off your head.
Consequently, I'm referring to the head on your shoulders, but I imagine that all things are possible. So, get off your butt and buy her the ring before she begins reading the Biography of Lorena Bobbit.
From my perspective, the perfect diamond is the one that sparkles the most and brings the most pleasure to the person who is wearing it. She's going to see it as a symbol of your love (which is far from perfect), and thus the diamond does not need to be perfect either.
However, the diamond should be as perfectly cut as possible because that will dictate the sparkle factor. That's why diamond cut quality is the most important of the Diamond 4C's.
Perfect Diamond Cut Characteristics:
The perfect diamond is not actually cut perfectly because it is technically impossible, but it's pretty darn close. There will always be minor variations in the facet measurements and alignment because diamonds are turned on the wheel by hand.
However, there are varying degrees of perfection within each classification of the cut quality. You can improve your chances of finding a virtually perfect diamond by limiting your search to jewelers who specialize in hearts and arrows diamonds.
You can also spend a lot of time trying to memorize precise offsets for the crown and pavilion angle and worrying about specific measurements. Alternatively, you can focus on hearts and arrows super ideal cut diamonds like this one from Brian Gavin Diamonds.
The Absolute Best Light Performance:
Black by Brian Gavin and Signature Diamonds are cut to a higher standard of optical precision. That is the consistency of facet shape, size, and alignment from the perspective of 360-degrees.
The benefit is a higher volume of light return and sparkle factor that is more vivid and intense. Consequently, Brian Gavin holds the patent for maximizing light performance in the modern round brilliant cut diamond.
The majority of ideal cut diamonds do not exhibit the same degree of optical precision. There is more light leakage, and the sparkle factor tends to be smaller and less intense.
Under those circumstances, finding the perfect diamond is easier within the hearts and arrows classification.
However, there are varying degrees of production quality within each spectrum of the cut quality. That is why you'll see that some hearts' patterns are more precise than others.
Perfect Diamond Color and Clarity:
At this point, you know that diamond cut quality is the most important factor since it dictates the light performance. Diamond color is the next most noticeable factor that affects our perception of brightness.
It is tempting to look for colorless diamonds in the D-E-F color range. However, they can be cost-prohibitive, and you'll only be able to afford a smaller carat weight.
Thus, many people prefer diamonds in the near-colorless range of G-H-I-J, which generally face up as "white" with just a hint of warmth in the J-color and lower range.
According to the GIA, the average diamond sold in the United States is N-color, so it's clear that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You have lots of room in terms of what your perfect diamond color should be in that case.
The Eye-Clean Perfect Diamond:
Set the lowest search parameter to SI-1 or VS-2 clarity if you want the diamond to be eye-clean in the face-up position. Then ask the vendor to look at the diamond in various lighting scenarios to determine the extent that the inclusions may be visible.
The majority of SI-1 clarity diamonds will be "eye clean" under normal lighting situations unless you scrutinize them closely. However, the degree that a diamond may be eye-clean varies greatly and may change due to lighting.
In the first place, we're talking about natural crystal structures that contain minor impurities. Secondly, diamonds are graded by human beings with varying degrees of vision.
Under those circumstances, one person might deem a diamond eye-clean while another might be able to see the inclusions clearly. Note that the eye-clean industry designation depends on merely glancing at the diamond from a distance of 9-12 inches.
Whereas most people scrutinize diamonds more closely when set in an engagement ring. Thus, I highly recommend a minimum clarity of VS-2 if you want the diamond to face-up eye-clean.
Perfect Diamond Carat Weight:
There is no right and wrong choice when it comes to diamond carat weight. It is simply a matter of personal preference and mostly depends on what you can afford within the range of quality you prefer.
If you've decided that your perfect diamond needs to be D-color, then factors such as carat weight and clarity will be affected. Likewise, if you need the perfect diamond to be Flawless, Internally Flawless, or VVS-1 in clarity, this will also affect the diamond's size.
Personally, I tend to focus on diamond cut quality and visual performance above all else. I find that people can judge the sparkle of a diamond from across the room. However, they are less likely to see slight differences in carat weight, color, or clarity beyond a few inches.
Best Places to Buy the Perfect Diamond:
If your idea of the perfect diamond sparkles like the sun, then buy a hearts and arrows diamond:
- 1Black by Brian Gavin Ultra Super Ideal Cut.
- 2Brian Gavin Signature Hearts and Arrows.
- 3James Allen True Hearts Collection.
- 4Victor Canera Hearts & Arrows.
The exacting range of proportions and a higher degree of optical precision that these diamonds exhibit produces better light performance. Although that may be true, there are varying degrees of perfection within each brand designation.
Where to Buy Ideal Cut Diamonds Online:
If you want a diamond that sparkles better than most but can't spend the premium for hearts and arrows, then buy a standard ideal from:
The last four on that list also offer lab-grown diamonds. I'm happy to help you find the perfect diamond if you drop me a note. Just give me some idea of what you're looking for and the price range you're working with, and I'll run a search.
I am also happy to help you look over the details of any diamonds that you may be considering. Note that it doesn't matter to me whether you're intent on finding the perfect diamond online or shopping locally.